I hate how I look, old and middle aged and going through menopause. Have you felt the same way?

I hate myself more and more each day. My body is changing, I've gained a little weight, my hair is growing gray, there is extra skin under chin and lose bands on my neck and I get hot flashes now. I always thought I would embrace growing old, but I found I am fighting it all the way and yearn for how I looked in my 30's. I looked great back then. I am now 50. I can't stand these changes about myself and want to look more youthful. Is this normal? What have you done to improve your image?